I’m sorry tissue alert………….This beautiful woman below is my daughter Megan. And that sassy little thing next to her is my adorable granddaughter Ivy. Over the years I’ve shared very few personal stories with you. But to a few of my clients (I’m so grateful to have many clients that feel like family) I have shared my daughters struggle with infertility. I have had so many clients that have had struggles just like Megan. Some struggles that have been decades long of hope to conceive a child. What some of these families have had to go thru to bring a precious newborn baby into the world has made me just cherish being a newborn photographer evermore!
In Late March, Megan was thrilled to get the news she was expecting a baby! We were all overjoyed that such a miracle could finally happen! However that joy was short-lived. On July 3, 2018 Megan accidentally found out that her husband of 7 years had been cheating on her with multiple women..the 3rd he is currently with. It has shattered many lives. Well maybe not for my Son in law (SIL)…he’s not having to sneak around any longer. 🙁 He can be with whomever he wants and not have the noose of a wife and family around his neck. Do I sound bitter? My husband and I are heartbroken! We loved our SIL so much! We thought there was no way we could be any closer to him. We’ve always done whatever we could to help him and show love to him. And now to find out he was lying and deceiving our daughter is devastating to everyone! The worst part is that he can try and deceive others saying what an unhappy marriage he was in. After discovering the affair Megan let him convince her she was partially to blame for the demise of the marriage. She begged him to find a way to forgive and fix the marriage. Her faith is strong and she believed that thru this faith they could make the marriage even stronger. He refused. So as Megan was looking back at the timeline of her marriage she stumbled across old text messages from him. Messages of encouragement to keep trying to conceive a child. Messages of support and love. Messages that make you sick to read now… How he would put all her doubts to rest with reassurance and love that the marriage was happy and loving. She was so focused on conceiving she didn’t see all she can see now. We live in a day and age that all is posted on social media to see. Our internet becomes the scrapbooks of old. There were SO many pictures of loving times…so many of fun family memories. And so many declarations of love from him to his wife. All these pictures have been taken down now but thru this process Megan has realized that it was all just another carefully crafted set of lies to deflect from his bad behavior. She constantly says to me ” Do you think I would have wanted to bring a baby into a marriage that was unhappy?” I know the answer to that…NO. I guess for my SIL it’s easier to deal with his actions if he can play the victim….Such a common thing aggressors do. It makes me so sad! All of these discoveries have helped her to start the healing process..but she has a super LONG road ahead of her. Being a single Mom and having to cope with the betrayal and hurt are not going to be easy. I’ve already seen the blessings of all our extended family and friends reaching out to comfort and show love and support for Megan. Thank you..It means the world to her and to us! I know there is something more wonderful in the future for my daughter and grandchildren. Patience.
And in time I know we can all find the strength to forgive and let go of the hurt. I believe in forgiveness …but I know it does take time. Right now I’m going to focus on being there for my child, my granddaughter Ivy and unborn grandson. He already has had his life story started for him. That breaks my heart. But out of tragedy can come beautiful things. I know that will happen for Megan, her children and our whole family. Thank you for being there! I truly have the best clients and friends!
Wishing you happiness and love!